How often do you find yourself blaming, passing judgment on, or getting frustrated with your partner for not doing enough to make you feel better when you are upset? This has been a very familiar narrative for me AND one that I am working hard to break because not only is it very hurtful, but it is completely unfair to my partner. It also usually leaves me feeling way worse and eventually eats away at the trust and love in the relationship. So what’s the alternative? This is what I take on in today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant. However, fair warning...The solution is not for sissies! Like all spiritual growth, it requires a fair bit of self-reflection and inner strength. The payoff, however, can be huge!
On this episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant, we continue the conversation about Courageous Intimate Connections with a discussion about The Context for Love. On one level, we can certainly imagine a relationship in which one partner acquiring two box seat tickets to a hockey game would be received as way more romantic and loving than preparing a candlelit dinner, but why is this the case and how can we use that understanding to deepen and grow an ever more connected and loving relationship with a partner (or friend)?
On today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant, I begin a month-long journey of thinking about Courageous Connections in our most intimate relationships. Having spent about 5 years coaching individuals and couples who were meeting challenges in their primary relationship significant enough to have them considering divorce and separation or already having begun this process, the one phrase I heard more than any other while I was coaching in these situations was,
“I still love my spouse/partner, I am just not IN Love with him/her anymore.”
What does that actually mean? This is what I take on in today’s episode. What does it mean to be IN LOVE and what are some of the secrets to maintaining a state of IN LOVEness over time.
Have you ever felt really sad or pained by loss or rejection?
And which of the following is more likely to occur…
In his book, Social: Why Our Brains are Wired to Connect, Matthew Lieberman explains that both physical and emotional pain register in very similar ways in our brain and that our lack of understanding of the significance of our social wiring causes us to make choices in life, leadership, education, and in all facets of life that are counterproductive and even harmful to our well being. Join me for today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant as I share a bit about his research and how it bares out in a personal story of my own.
On today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant, I talk about how our lives can be transformed through brief and spontaneous moments of connection. As my kids will tell you, I am a connection junkie and will strike up a conversation with just about anyone anywhere. As I have been thinking about this in the context of this year-long exploration of Connections, I am present to the incredible richness this has added to my life. These are not connections that are likely to last a lifetime - sometimes they last just hours or minutes, but the degree to which they transform a moment in time is striking.
Maybe it’s just me, but I can think of loads of times that I have shied away from making a connection, told myself I couldn’t reconnect with someone because it had been too long, or let a story I had concocted in my head convince me that I shouldn’t connect with someone. I don’t really think it is just me. Despite the fact that the science is clear - we are social beings that are happier in connection, we come up with stories that can be fatal to building, rejuvenating and strengthening our connections. In today’s episode, I explore some of these stories as well as offer what happened when I pushed through some of mine.
In today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant I talk about the stories that we associate with transition or tell during times of transitions (ours or other people’s transitions), and how we experience the mixed pot of emotions that arise during a transition. As I have often indicated, a transition is natural, as natural as aging, leaves falling, and the earth spinning. It is neither bad nor good. It takes on the characteristics or qualities that we attribute to it. It becomes what it will be in response to how we show up to it. Join me for this continued discussion of the nature of transition and our human experience of it.
Just like animals that go into hibernation or trees that become dormant in winter, I have been in a period of quiet which often accompanies a period of transition or reinvention. While I am not yet ready to share the nature of the transition (more to come soon), in today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant I do share my tools and strategies for navigating transition. Just a trees lose leaves and then grow them again, waves come in and out, the moon waxes and wanes, we - as humans - are constantly cycling through periods of transition. It is part of nature. Nonetheless, despite the fact that change and transition are inevitable, many people fear them, resist them and struggle painfully through them. There is always discomfort with change and transition, but with the tools and strategies I outline in the podcast, it is my hope that we can all come to experience them as opportunities for new growth.
In today’s episode of I Wonder Your Way to Brilliant I go a bit out there. We are familiar with facts like two-thirds of our body is made up of water. Or.... We have 206 bones in our body. But what does it mean that we are 99.99% energy? Actually, that we as humans, and all other matter, are almost all energy! Listen and explore what it means to be an energy being and how understanding this can change your life.
If we are not your thoughts, feelings or flesh, what are we? If we are not defined by the roles we play, things we do, or awards we earn, then who are we? The questions are both intriguing and unusual. Join me for today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant when April retreat co-facilitator, Henry Yampolsky and I continue to explore the essence of BEING. In addition to facilitating at Brilliance of Being, Henry brings an eclectic mix of interest in motorcycles, yoga, meditation, mediation, and car shopping! to his work of guiding people to peace and inner contentment.
This episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant may truly be one of the most transformative conversations I have ever been part of. I talk with Dr. Christine Kiesinger, an Integrative Wellness Education & Coach on BEING. What does Being mean? What is our Being? How do we connect with our Being? What is that experience? Christine generously shares why connecting with our being is so extraordinary and how we can begin doing this. You do not want to miss this episode and please share with others. It can be life-changing!
If you acquired a precious artifact, piece of jewelry or rare memorabilia, how would you care for it? Most of us would handle these items with kid gloves, wouldn’t we? We would store or display them in a safe or special place. We would handle with care. We would protect them, wouldn’t we? On today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant I get curious about how we handle time. Isn’t time a precious resource? Aren’t our life’s moments finite and irreplaceable? Isn’t our time as precious as these physical items? If so, do we treat it accordingly? Hmmmmm. I invite you to take a precious moment and get curious about this with me. I wonder how it might completely transform your relationship with time.
Today is the Spring Equinox - the day on which there is an equal amount of light and dark, a pivotal moment as we turn toward a time when the days grow longer (if you are in the northern hemisphere :). Symbolically, the spring is a time of seed planting, new beginnings, and birth. How will you harness the energy of this time? What will you plant for this next season? Join me on today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant for some tools to align with the energy of the Equinox.
Time is so omnipresent in our lives that it is easy to overlook its significance. Many of us struggle with time, race against time, feel oppressed by time, pang for more time, but what does this really mean? Why do we have these experiences? And what do these experiences mean for our lives? In today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant, we take a closer look at time and our relationship to it. What is within our control and why it matters in our quest to live happy and fulfilled lives.
Last week I promised (at least in my post-script) that this week’s podcast would be fun and light. As I mentioned last week, February is typically a challenging month for me. This is why I made a special point of PLAYING BIG this month too. Like many people, I can be known to put PLAY at the bottom of the priority list. But not this month. This month, it rose up…. LITERALLY! Join me for today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant, during which I share why things like indoor skydiving are not a luxury for those committed to living a courageously curious life!
I don’t know about you, but February is typically the most challenging month for me of the year. I know I am not alone because the ‘February Blues’ is actually a thing, especially if you live where it is cold and dark in February. The trees are bare, the air is raw, and for many people, there seems to be a lot of change to cope with. This is why today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant, is about coping with discomfort. Whether this discomfort is the result of a relationship challenge, marriage ending, job transition, illness, politics…. Whatever the source of the discomfort, join me for 17 minutes of getting curious about how to cope with the February Blues (or discomfort of any kind!).
Valentine’s Day has always been very curious to me. Hallmark created a holiday and the next thing you know, there is a day during the year on which more people than not - whether in a relationship or not - walk around with a faint or very strong feeling of insufficiency and unmet expectations. When the expectation is set all around us about what LOVE is supposed to look like (and this idea is very far from the reality, depth, and complexity of what love is actually like), the result isn’t pretty. In today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant, I take on Valentine’s Day as well as the broader impact of externally constructed expectations in our lives. How are we affected by externally constructed expectations and what can we do about it?
Are you feeling affected by the current state of affairs in the country? Do you find yourself wondering how to BE and cope and what to do? In this week’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant I muse with Darwin Carlisle and Matt Loftin from the Lofty Darwinism podcast show about how we find our place in this new world we are living in. Join us for this 3-way conversation.
Does life ever make you crazy? Does your job, family, traffic, news ever trigger you, make you feel anxious or get you down? In this week’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant we talk about how to make how you react to the outside world the object of your curiosity. All of us are affected by things from the outside world and the amazing thing is that our reactions can teach us a lot about ourselves as well as helping us find a path to greater contentment. Listen in for tips about how to navigate in an ever-unpredictable world. www.couragetobecurious.com
Do you have the courage? In this week’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant - the first of 2017 - we will be talking about having the courage to be curious! Perhaps you have no idea why the host company of this podcast is called, Courage to be Curious. This week’s episode makes it all clear. Listen in as we explore why Curiosity is one of the foundations of personal growth and why real personal growth is not for the feint of heart! Join us for the journey and gear up for an amazingly brilliant year of Wondering Your Way to a Brilliant You! www.couragetobecurious.com
All month we have been talking about listening and today I want to offer that perhaps the greatest gift we can give to someone else and to ourselves is the gift of feeling heard. In today’s episode, I offer guidance on how you can give this gift in these final days of 2016 - and well beyond, of course. To whom might you want to give the gift of feeling heard by you? Why might you wish to give yourself the gift of feeling heard by you? How might you do this? This is the subject of today’s episode. www.couragetobecurious.com
Most of our listening experiences are oriented outward, but I honestly believe that the most important listening we can do is oriented inward. We look at the galaxies, the seas, the rainforests, and marvel at how complex, wondrous, and rich these environments are, and today I invite you to consider that your inner world, your mind, body, and spirit is equally as complex, rich and wondrous - and absolutely worthy of your curiosity. In today’s episode, I explore WHY we should bother listening within and some tips on getting started with this practice. www.couragetobecurious.com
The foundation of all relationships is effective communication, and the key to connected communication is being able to really listen. While we hear things all the time, true listening is a highly engaged process; a full being experience. On today’s episode, we delve more deeply into what gets in the way of our really listening to others, what the consequences of this are, and how we can become more engaged and connected through deep listening. www.couragetobecurious.com
When you think about Curiosity, do you think about Questions? I used to think that questions were the primary tool of a curious person … and then I discovered LISTENING! This month, Wonder Your Way to Brilliant is dedicated to episodes on the topic of listening because without the capacity to listen deeply, we cannot truly be curious nor can we wonder our way to brilliant! This first one dedicated to exploring what it really means to listen to yourself and others. At the end, I share a Game Changing Question that could change how you relate to yourself and to others for the rest of your life!
I honestly believe that no matter how confident any of us seems, none of us is without a gap or fracture in our sense of worthiness. We all experience doubts in our sense of self-worth and value. I also believe that the world needs us to own our value and strengthen our sense of worthiness so we can bring our fullest self to this world. The world needs our contributions, gifts and ways of seeing the world. This is why this week’s episode is dedicated to offering a tool for tending to the strengthening self-worth.