On this week’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant I am taking on a topic that is very close to my personal world right now. Having just experienced the loss of my father and noticing many people around me who are also navigating the loss of loved ones or difficult times, I wanted to discuss what it means to courageously connect during times of loss. It is not an easy time for many of us and it has taken me a number of experiences of loss to find a means of connecting courageously. I hope this offering is of service to you or can be for someone you know.
This week’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant is inspired by one of the courageous young leaders who participates in one of my corporate Leadership Development Programs. She asked, how do you create Courageous Connections? Her question was in fact inspired by personal experience with someone she knew who was very skilfull at this and she wanted to know more about how she could advance her own practice of connecting deeply. This episode is dedicated to this amazing young woman. In it, I hope to provide some of the tools that I am aware of and use (in my best moments) to create Courageous Connections.
I used to feel very awkward when people around me would be sad, angry, frustrated, filled with shame, or disappointed. I could give them a hug, but beyond that, I either wanted to get far away from them and their dark space or I tried all my tricks to get them out of the ‘bad mood’ they were in. None of this was really helpful for me or them. On today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant I not only provide some useful strategies for showing up in these challenging moments but also discuss how we can transform them into moments of courageous connection.
The month of May is always filled with lots of celebrations… Mother’s Day, graduations, weddings, reunions, and more. The celebrations are great times for friends and family to come together, but in my experience, it is easy to just go through the motions of meeting and greeting and never feel connected to anyone. On today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant, I offer an alternative. Questions are one of my primary tools for igniting a meaningful connection and in this episode, I suggest the type of questions we can ask at celebratory events to connect more meaningfully.
On today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant, we begin to discuss HOW we decide which connections to have and keep in our life and WHERE to place these connections in relationship to ourselves. The truth is that we do not have the same level of connection or relationship with each member of our family or everyone in our circle of friends and acquaintances. Much frustration can come when, for example, someone who brings out the worst in us or frustrates us occupies a lot of space in our lives. Today’s episode offers thoughts on how we can think about this and how we can manage our network of friends and family connections to achieve a happier and more fulfilled life experience.
Are you online? Are you proud - or uneasy about the number of online connections you have? On today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant ,I am totally unconcerned with how many connections you have but the ways in which we create Courageous Connection online. What are Courageous Online Connections? What can be transformed through the formation of these connections? Curious….?
Are you a dreamer? I mean actually… do you dream at night and are you curious about what the sorted fragments of your dreams mean? On today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant, I talk with Sharon Pastore and Cara Imperato, co-founders of Dream Girls, a private group dedicated to dream interpretation and enhancing one’s connection to self and life through dreams. In this dynamic conversation we discuss everything from how to form an affinity group among people who share a common interest to how you can train yourself to remember more of our dreams and receive guidance from them.
On today’s episode I am talking about those precious LIVE connections that await us beyond the screens of our cell phone and iPads. For me, some of my most beautiful connections happen when I am traveling and this is the case this week. Join me on Wonder Your Way to Brilliant for a journey through a series courageously beautiful connections formed on my recent travel to Colorado.
On today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant, I am thrilled to welcome Leigh Flemming into the conversation about Courageous Connections in the workplace. What blows me away about Leigh is how deeply committed he is to developing people and how willing he is to do the hard work of Reflective Leadership. Leigh realizes that leading people well does not happen by accident; it is an act of deep intention. In our conversation, Leigh shares about his experience taking on a leadership role, the conversation that was a turning point for him in thinking about the kind of leader he wanted to be, and how he goes about balancing all that a leader must attend to.
Today on Wonder Your Way to Brilliant I am talking about the incredible acts of courage that are taking place around the country as our children...students... join together to teach our nation’s leaders what it means to care well for people. Students, teachers, and families are joining together to call out the insanity that has ensued from our failure as a society to value each other over personal greed and self interest. It is a courageous act of connection and one that is near and dear to me as a parent, educator, and member of a society that I pray can be sculpted into the kind of place that feels safe for all our children.
We hold meetings in order to harness the collective energy, wisdom and creativity of everyone in the room, but often we fail to harness all the potential. While there are many reasons why, one is the failure to ensure that all the participants leave behind what they were working on before and find connection with each other. In today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant, we offer strategies for creating courageous connections among colleagues and collaborators for a better experience at work and more productive meetings.
Have you ever felt like people at work do too much complaining?
Have you ever felt unsettled by the fact that you can find yourself complaining or being more negative at work than you wish you were?
This month on Wonder Your Way to Brilliant we are talking about Courageous Connections in the workplace and this week I am taking on better ways for us to connect in the workplace. I am curious about what it would feel like to transform some of the workplace dialogue that focuses on complaining and criticizing into dialogue that builds deeper and richer connections.
Many people spend more waking hours at work - I calculated it at a minimum of 93,600 hours for most people - than they do with their families or engaged in any other activity, but what’s the nature of the connection we have with the people we spend all that time with? In today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant I first examine many of the stories that either consciously or unconsciously keep us from investing more in building connections with people at work. I share what I believe to be the compelling reasons why I believe this is worth examining more closely and some tips (and a nudge) to get started.
The strongest relationships are those in which the partners make a commitment to intimacy. It is so easy to fall into the day to day routine of life or to regularly unload on your partner as the one who has the ‘privilege’ of absorbing all your exhaustion, overwhelm and frustration from life. Whereas intimacy comes so naturally during the early days of a relationship, we can unwittingly lose sight of the fact that intimacy is a choice and a practice, not something that happens automatically. In today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant, as a culmination of our month-long exploration of Courageous Intimate Connections, I offer 10 Tips for Deepening the Connection in Your Intimate Partnership. You can download a PDF of the tips on our Facebook page: Wonder Your Way to Brilliant.
How often do you find yourself blaming, passing judgment on, or getting frustrated with your partner for not doing enough to make you feel better when you are upset? This has been a very familiar narrative for me AND one that I am working hard to break because not only is it very hurtful, but it is completely unfair to my partner. It also usually leaves me feeling way worse and eventually eats away at the trust and love in the relationship. So what’s the alternative? This is what I take on in today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant. However, fair warning...The solution is not for sissies! Like all spiritual growth, it requires a fair bit of self-reflection and inner strength. The payoff, however, can be huge!
On this episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant, we continue the conversation about Courageous Intimate Connections with a discussion about The Context for Love. On one level, we can certainly imagine a relationship in which one partner acquiring two box seat tickets to a hockey game would be received as way more romantic and loving than preparing a candlelit dinner, but why is this the case and how can we use that understanding to deepen and grow an ever more connected and loving relationship with a partner (or friend)?
On today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant, I begin a month-long journey of thinking about Courageous Connections in our most intimate relationships. Having spent about 5 years coaching individuals and couples who were meeting challenges in their primary relationship significant enough to have them considering divorce and separation or already having begun this process, the one phrase I heard more than any other while I was coaching in these situations was,
“I still love my spouse/partner, I am just not IN Love with him/her anymore.”
What does that actually mean? This is what I take on in today’s episode. What does it mean to be IN LOVE and what are some of the secrets to maintaining a state of IN LOVEness over time.
Have you ever felt really sad or pained by loss or rejection?
And which of the following is more likely to occur…
In his book, Social: Why Our Brains are Wired to Connect, Matthew Lieberman explains that both physical and emotional pain register in very similar ways in our brain and that our lack of understanding of the significance of our social wiring causes us to make choices in life, leadership, education, and in all facets of life that are counterproductive and even harmful to our well being. Join me for today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant as I share a bit about his research and how it bares out in a personal story of my own.
On today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant, I talk about how our lives can be transformed through brief and spontaneous moments of connection. As my kids will tell you, I am a connection junkie and will strike up a conversation with just about anyone anywhere. As I have been thinking about this in the context of this year-long exploration of Connections, I am present to the incredible richness this has added to my life. These are not connections that are likely to last a lifetime - sometimes they last just hours or minutes, but the degree to which they transform a moment in time is striking.
Maybe it’s just me, but I can think of loads of times that I have shied away from making a connection, told myself I couldn’t reconnect with someone because it had been too long, or let a story I had concocted in my head convince me that I shouldn’t connect with someone. I don’t really think it is just me. Despite the fact that the science is clear - we are social beings that are happier in connection, we come up with stories that can be fatal to building, rejuvenating and strengthening our connections. In today’s episode, I explore some of these stories as well as offer what happened when I pushed through some of mine.
In today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant I talk about the stories that we associate with transition or tell during times of transitions (ours or other people’s transitions), and how we experience the mixed pot of emotions that arise during a transition. As I have often indicated, a transition is natural, as natural as aging, leaves falling, and the earth spinning. It is neither bad nor good. It takes on the characteristics or qualities that we attribute to it. It becomes what it will be in response to how we show up to it. Join me for this continued discussion of the nature of transition and our human experience of it.
Just like animals that go into hibernation or trees that become dormant in winter, I have been in a period of quiet which often accompanies a period of transition or reinvention. While I am not yet ready to share the nature of the transition (more to come soon), in today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant I do share my tools and strategies for navigating transition. Just a trees lose leaves and then grow them again, waves come in and out, the moon waxes and wanes, we - as humans - are constantly cycling through periods of transition. It is part of nature. Nonetheless, despite the fact that change and transition are inevitable, many people fear them, resist them and struggle painfully through them. There is always discomfort with change and transition, but with the tools and strategies I outline in the podcast, it is my hope that we can all come to experience them as opportunities for new growth.
In today’s episode of I Wonder Your Way to Brilliant I go a bit out there. We are familiar with facts like two-thirds of our body is made up of water. Or.... We have 206 bones in our body. But what does it mean that we are 99.99% energy? Actually, that we as humans, and all other matter, are almost all energy! Listen and explore what it means to be an energy being and how understanding this can change your life.
If we are not your thoughts, feelings or flesh, what are we? If we are not defined by the roles we play, things we do, or awards we earn, then who are we? The questions are both intriguing and unusual. Join me for today’s episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant when April retreat co-facilitator, Henry Yampolsky and I continue to explore the essence of BEING. In addition to facilitating at Brilliance of Being, Henry brings an eclectic mix of interest in motorcycles, yoga, meditation, mediation, and car shopping! to his work of guiding people to peace and inner contentment.
This episode of Wonder Your Way to Brilliant may truly be one of the most transformative conversations I have ever been part of. I talk with Dr. Christine Kiesinger, an Integrative Wellness Education & Coach on BEING. What does Being mean? What is our Being? How do we connect with our Being? What is that experience? Christine generously shares why connecting with our being is so extraordinary and how we can begin doing this. You do not want to miss this episode and please share with others. It can be life-changing!